The long road to self-transformation starts with the daily struggle of our everyday life in which is contained like in a seed the mystery of our own resurrection to a new life after death. Jesus wanted his disciples to understand this great truth from his own life and death from which they had to learn lessons. For this purpose they were instructed about how to conduct themselves in their day to day life. All those who want to follow Jesus and become his disciples should deny themselves, take up their daily cross and follow him (See Matthew, 16: 24-25; Mark, 8: 34-35; Luke, 9: 23-24). Why did Jesus insist on self denial for our well-being? The reason is that our self has two aspects to it - one is the visible, outward-looking, and dependent on our body, and the other invisible, inward-looking and dependent on our soul. Usually we tend to understand by self the former that connects us to the world , neglecting the latter that connects us to God. Although our real self is the latter one whereby we are the images of God Himself, our apparent self forces us to be engaged in the world forgetting all about our real self. When Jesus demanded self denial from us, he wanted us to deny our false self that masquerades as our real self. The difficulty here as well as in our spiritual life in general is to separate what is essentially inseparable, namely, the body and the soul and in their turn the apparent and real selves. We say that the soul is separated from the body at death, and self denial involves a certain kind of death to our false self in order to let the real self shine forth.
In order to overcome this seemingly insuperable problem, Jesus asked us to leave everything behind including our own selves besides our near and dear ones etc. (See Matthew, 10: 37; Mark, 8: 34-35; Luke, 14:26; John, 12:25). As we cannot escape this world and its compulsions on us as long as we live in a body thoroughly attuned to this material world, how is it possible for us to leave everything behind? Same is the case with our social life beginning with our family and the wider society. Even those who completely abandon the world like the monks and nuns cannot avoid the world and its demands altogether, beginning with our need to eat and drink. Similarly, our need of the society and the necessity to interact with it cannot be ignored either. What about the demand of Jesus to leave behind our own selves? Clearly, one leaves behind one's own self through self denial. Similarly, one leaves one's family and the world itself by being detached from them. 'Detachment' means to curb our natural tendency to be attracted and be attached to persons and things we have a liking for whatever reason. True detachment prevents us from being sucked into relationships and attitudes that enslaves us robbing us of our freedom to be open to any other genuine relationship. An attached person cannot have true relationship with God either as we cannot serve two masters at the same time. This is why Jesus said that we cannot love both God and Money at the same time (See Matthew, 6; 24; Luke, 16: 13).
True detachment has nothing to do with indifference or insensitiveness to human problems as some might think that detachment from the world is an escape from the world! On the contrary, a truly detached person is so totally free from the compulsions of this world that he or she can be fully involved and be sensitive to human problems. Let us remember here what Jesus said about the Pharisees and Lawyers among the Jews in their zeal to observe the traditions of the humans neglecting the commandments of God (See Mark, 7: 5-8). The kind of self-denial required for our self-transformation leading to our own resurrection is implied in genuine detachment from the world and its nefarious attractions. It consists in doing our daily duties with dedication and humility offering our success and failure to the glory of God and for the benefit of humanity. Jesus admonished Martha that only one thing was necessary and Mary had chosen the better part that will not be taken away from her (See Luke, 10: 41-42). Was it not necessary for Martha to prepare lunch for Jesus and if she also were to just sit at the feet of Jesus, who would serve lunch in time? Was it too much to ask for a hand in helping her to prepare the same? Jesus did not deny the value of Martha's service that was also necessary. What was unacceptable to Jesus was her anxiety and vanity, that was evident from her 'busybody' attitude, denigrating the value of listening to the word of life Mary was engaged in. Only one thing was necessary that had two inseparable parts, namely, clarity of thought and purity of heart deriving from clarity. Detachment and true action would follow negating the too human tendencies of being blindly attached to what one does and seeking approval and glory from others. Genuine detachment contained in self-denial saves us from this kind of peril into which we are prone to fall. Gradually, self-transformation takes place as the Holy Spirit abides in us to support and sanctify us.
In order to overcome this seemingly insuperable problem, Jesus asked us to leave everything behind including our own selves besides our near and dear ones etc. (See Matthew, 10: 37; Mark, 8: 34-35; Luke, 14:26; John, 12:25). As we cannot escape this world and its compulsions on us as long as we live in a body thoroughly attuned to this material world, how is it possible for us to leave everything behind? Same is the case with our social life beginning with our family and the wider society. Even those who completely abandon the world like the monks and nuns cannot avoid the world and its demands altogether, beginning with our need to eat and drink. Similarly, our need of the society and the necessity to interact with it cannot be ignored either. What about the demand of Jesus to leave behind our own selves? Clearly, one leaves behind one's own self through self denial. Similarly, one leaves one's family and the world itself by being detached from them. 'Detachment' means to curb our natural tendency to be attracted and be attached to persons and things we have a liking for whatever reason. True detachment prevents us from being sucked into relationships and attitudes that enslaves us robbing us of our freedom to be open to any other genuine relationship. An attached person cannot have true relationship with God either as we cannot serve two masters at the same time. This is why Jesus said that we cannot love both God and Money at the same time (See Matthew, 6; 24; Luke, 16: 13).
True detachment has nothing to do with indifference or insensitiveness to human problems as some might think that detachment from the world is an escape from the world! On the contrary, a truly detached person is so totally free from the compulsions of this world that he or she can be fully involved and be sensitive to human problems. Let us remember here what Jesus said about the Pharisees and Lawyers among the Jews in their zeal to observe the traditions of the humans neglecting the commandments of God (See Mark, 7: 5-8). The kind of self-denial required for our self-transformation leading to our own resurrection is implied in genuine detachment from the world and its nefarious attractions. It consists in doing our daily duties with dedication and humility offering our success and failure to the glory of God and for the benefit of humanity. Jesus admonished Martha that only one thing was necessary and Mary had chosen the better part that will not be taken away from her (See Luke, 10: 41-42). Was it not necessary for Martha to prepare lunch for Jesus and if she also were to just sit at the feet of Jesus, who would serve lunch in time? Was it too much to ask for a hand in helping her to prepare the same? Jesus did not deny the value of Martha's service that was also necessary. What was unacceptable to Jesus was her anxiety and vanity, that was evident from her 'busybody' attitude, denigrating the value of listening to the word of life Mary was engaged in. Only one thing was necessary that had two inseparable parts, namely, clarity of thought and purity of heart deriving from clarity. Detachment and true action would follow negating the too human tendencies of being blindly attached to what one does and seeking approval and glory from others. Genuine detachment contained in self-denial saves us from this kind of peril into which we are prone to fall. Gradually, self-transformation takes place as the Holy Spirit abides in us to support and sanctify us.